A little D/S lovin

4:26 AM Cuppy Cakes 0 Comments

This is not a discussion of a life style , but more me stating my beliefs and what i have learned . It is not meant to insult any one or put them down but an attempt to bring some loving and understanding to it.

Let me start by something that is close to me the term Submissive.
I am a Submissive , a Baby Girl Submissive ( lol yes there is a difference and i might go in to that term on another post), most people consider submissive people weak, fragile, not able to think for themselves and obedient.
Now seriously for those of you who know me does that sound like me? I am neither of those! 
As a submissive I aim to please as a Baby girl I try to push the boundaries.

Now let me say this :
Submission is not a sign of weakness or inferiority. Some of the strongest, most successful people in the world  are submissive in their personal relationships. 
Neither  does Submission indicate a lack of intelligence or motivation. Most submissives are very intelligent, creative and are highly motivated people and in most cases very successful in their career.  

Submission is not a hidden desire for pain or humiliation. Some people may turn to the D/s or BDSM lifestyle in order to fulfill their needs for these things but there are many more gentle, loving individuals who are quite happy not to receive either humiliation or pain, for me a mix of both is the key.
Submission is not the same as passivity. Submissives are not passive. They participate actively and are thinking individuals.So if you want some one who shuts up and "takes" it you really should rethink.
Submission is not something that can be demanded or forced. The definition of the word means it is a willing act. A submissive submits because they have chosen to do so, not because someone forced them. 
Submission is not a miserable state of existence. Most submissives are happy, well balanced people who are simply fulfilling their nature. 

There is a difference between Submission and Slavery, roll your eyes all you want but there are distinct differences! 
 All slaves are submissive but not all submissives are slaves. A submissive has not given up their right to choose but has given some of those choices to another to make for them. They have input into their relationship and maintain their identity, a slave has neither. 

Submissives are not sex crazed nymphomaniacs who cannot control their drives. Most are husbands or wives, mothers or fathers, friends, neighbors, workers, or family members who have a need to relinquish control of some aspects of their lives to someone they trust. It isn't a sex thing...it's a condition of the heart. And trust is the key, if you can not trust some one to not take advantage of your submission to them then do not do so out of the desire to belong or please.

A Submissive is a  person who surrenders control of herself/himself  to her/his dominant. The submissive, while putty in the hands of a dominant whom she trusts and respects, is likely to be independent and assertive in any other area, and while respectful towards other dominants is still not a lifeless doormat with out will or rights.

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